"I just said that to get you mad"
Why is it (at least it has been for me lately) that people will come out of the blue and say things to you that they know will get on your nerves or even piss you off and then act like they have these pure and honest intentions when you react to them? Now for me I normally just laugh when people do stuff like that because I can be somewhat of an ass myself...so who am I to get mad at anyone. But lately, there have been a few things that have just made me feel like this inside...
(This Brotha needs to let that anger out before he choke-slams somebody. LOL)
Well it's actually three things in particular...
1. The Hair topic - Why do people suddenly have opinions about what needs to be done with my hair? If people aren't asking how long I will let it grow they are asking if I am gonna cut it. I know this means you want to advise me on what to do with my hair. WTF do you care for..is this your hair homie? Did I steal your shit? If I could give it back I swear I would.
Is this "questioning phase" one of the stages of locs that people didn't mention and have I arrived to this stage prematurely? I mean I have only been growing my locs 3 years as of this month and I have friends who have me beat by years and no one ever asks them stuff like that. Did it get to long too fast and now I give my short haired brothas performance anxiety or something. LOL. I get asked about my hair like 3 times a week now and it is annoying as hell.
2. The Lakers topic - I am a huge Lakers fan. Not hiding or denying it. The thing that bothers me is when everyone I know seems to take out there Lakers frustrations on ME. I talk about the team as if I am a part of the unit but people....I AM NOT ON THE TEAM. LOL. Most of those frustrations come from people who don't like LA because of Kobe whether it is because of the Shaq situation, the cheating on his wife situation, or the MJ comparison that they apply. LOL. I am a Kobe fan but please don't treat me like we aren't friends because of it because we can NOT be friends if that's what you really want. LOL. What kills me the most is these bamas who never talk to me about sports all year long (any sport) and don't realize I am very passionate about my sports teams then find out I am a Lakers fan during game 6 of the NBA finals and send me all kinds of heckling messages at midnight. They don't realize just how much I had to hold back to not call them each a very dear and special name they may have never heard before. LOL.
3. The Relationship Topic - Yes relationships are always a hot topic and I understand people find interest in love lives BUT don't be trying to act cute and put me on the spot with your questions. This really is only about one question. It's the question you get when you are dealing with someone that you have a well known history with..."so, when are you gonna get married?" WTF is going on in your head that you think this is an appropriate question? What if she is ready and I am not...so now you just got me a one way ticket into another argument. What if I am ready and she isn't...so now I feel like shit cause everyone feels like me BUT the woman I love. What if we both are ready but we are just broke as hell...very likely with the cost of living in DC and the price of gas. SO my new answer to this question is now "I'm getting married when you give me that money for a ring" LOL. For some reason that works. I said it to my grandmother on Sunday and didn't hear anything from her for the rest of Fathers Day...You know shit is bad when your grandmomma calling you out. LMAO.
(This Brotha needs to let that anger out before he choke-slams somebody. LOL)
Well it's actually three things in particular...
1. The Hair topic - Why do people suddenly have opinions about what needs to be done with my hair? If people aren't asking how long I will let it grow they are asking if I am gonna cut it. I know this means you want to advise me on what to do with my hair. WTF do you care for..is this your hair homie? Did I steal your shit? If I could give it back I swear I would.
Is this "questioning phase" one of the stages of locs that people didn't mention and have I arrived to this stage prematurely? I mean I have only been growing my locs 3 years as of this month and I have friends who have me beat by years and no one ever asks them stuff like that. Did it get to long too fast and now I give my short haired brothas performance anxiety or something. LOL. I get asked about my hair like 3 times a week now and it is annoying as hell.
2. The Lakers topic - I am a huge Lakers fan. Not hiding or denying it. The thing that bothers me is when everyone I know seems to take out there Lakers frustrations on ME. I talk about the team as if I am a part of the unit but people....I AM NOT ON THE TEAM. LOL. Most of those frustrations come from people who don't like LA because of Kobe whether it is because of the Shaq situation, the cheating on his wife situation, or the MJ comparison that they apply. LOL. I am a Kobe fan but please don't treat me like we aren't friends because of it because we can NOT be friends if that's what you really want. LOL. What kills me the most is these bamas who never talk to me about sports all year long (any sport) and don't realize I am very passionate about my sports teams then find out I am a Lakers fan during game 6 of the NBA finals and send me all kinds of heckling messages at midnight. They don't realize just how much I had to hold back to not call them each a very dear and special name they may have never heard before. LOL.
3. The Relationship Topic - Yes relationships are always a hot topic and I understand people find interest in love lives BUT don't be trying to act cute and put me on the spot with your questions. This really is only about one question. It's the question you get when you are dealing with someone that you have a well known history with..."so, when are you gonna get married?" WTF is going on in your head that you think this is an appropriate question? What if she is ready and I am not...so now you just got me a one way ticket into another argument. What if I am ready and she isn't...so now I feel like shit cause everyone feels like me BUT the woman I love. What if we both are ready but we are just broke as hell...very likely with the cost of living in DC and the price of gas. SO my new answer to this question is now "I'm getting married when you give me that money for a ring" LOL. For some reason that works. I said it to my grandmother on Sunday and didn't hear anything from her for the rest of Fathers Day...You know shit is bad when your grandmomma calling you out. LMAO.
posted by Daneger at 4:56 PM
3 Comments:
I have to say I feel you on this post. People do tend to ask you a lot of "personal questions," and interestingly enough it is very out of the blue. I get the hair questions and marriage questions too, but what I find just fascinating is that they ALWAYS come from people I DON'T really talk to like that. It's like if we aren't close/cool/homies/acquaintances then why are you asking me personal questions??!
As for the Lakers/Celtics thing. I was happy for KG which is weird because I hated Boston back in the day. As for the Lakers, I actually like them NOW. Let me rephrase that. Back in the day, my family was a Lakers family. We loved Magic, Worthy, Kareem, Scott...but when the second coming of Kobe, Shaq, Fisher, etc., I was not a fan, because I just can't stand Shaq and at the time, I didn't like Kobe either.
But Kobe has matured a lot, and I think the Lakers have something to work with now. It will be interesting to see next seasn. Don't worry about the green bandwagon fans.
Those types of questions kill me because people act like I don't realize the same stuff they are asking me. Like they are opening my eyes to these personal truths that only they can make me see. LOL.
Yeah I was happy for KG too and I won't worry too much about them Boston fans. Bastards...LOL.
1. i can totally relate! being natural isn't the easiest thing in the world...to press or not to press. to loc or not to loc...wear a bush or not...so many different things to do and EVERYONE has an opinion about it...and it is annoying as hell
2. can't relate to this that much but i feel your pain, maybe because HE is a lakers fan...i will say that Kobe has matured a lot so i can dig it...
3. i HATE that question! you think YOU got it bad, try being a female and almost 30!!! you would totally think that i was about to be 45 and my eggs were dried up and i looked a hot mess and there was absolutely NO hope for me to be a wife and a mother...my grandmother keeps saying...you don't want to be too old, when you going to settle down...but then keep getting that education be independant, but you gotta let a man be a man...can we say MIXED signs like a mofo!!! so trust me i can dig it...
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